Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals
Goodreads Synopsis –
Rachel Hollis has seen it too often: women not living into their full potential. They feel a tugging on their hearts for something more, but they’re afraid of embarrassment, of falling short of perfection, of not being enough.
In Girl, Stop Apologizing, #1 New York Times bestselling author and founder of a multimillion-dollar media company, Rachel Hollis sounds a wake-up call. She knows that many women have been taught to define themselves in light of other people—whether as wife, mother, daughter, or employee—instead of learning how to own who they are and what they want. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams, Hollis identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself. (Source)
Girl, let me tell you it was hard for me to get through this book. Not because I’m not a HUGE MASSIVE FAN of Rachel Hollis. Not because it wasn’t really good information. Not because it was poorly written (It is NOT at all). Not because I knew it all already. Why did I struggle to get through this book?
Because I NEEDED to hear the words in that book. I needed to receive those messages of do the work, change your mindset, and change your current lifestyle to reflect the one you’re working towards. And when you need to hear something that may be a bit tougher or calling you out on your bullshit, that’s when you subconsciously stop listening. You stop paying attention or have to continuously refocus yourself. But I persevered because I need to hear this message. I need to be called out on my bullshit. And I need to stop apologizing.
Rachel Hollis + Me
I was introduced to Mrs. Rachel Hollis through the Goal Digger Podcast and Jenna Kutcher. She had Rachel on and was talking about her previous book: Girl, Wash Your Face. She also provides similar content on her podcast: The Rise Podcast, so shortly after that I started binging everything Hollis. Reading all her fiction books, watching her documentary on Amazon, purchasing her Start Today Journals. But besides being a fan and finding her everywhere I can, I’m trying to take her words to heart. I am trying to build better practices such as: ACTUALLY taking my vitamins, drinking more water, moving my body more and writing more as well. These are things I have to work at because they are not ingrained in me yet, they are not habits. But soon they will be.
Recommend this Book!
As one of my first book recommendations, it should be pretty obviously that yes I do recommend this book. I recommend this book for doers and planners that are missing a piece to their success. I recommend this book for someone that is going to listen to the advice given and actively make changes to their lives. I recommend this book for someone that needs some tweaks to their business plans, some refocusing. I wouldn’t recommend this for someone that wants a “light” read. For someone that doesn’t want to make a change to their life and will just let it go in one ear and out the other. This book isn’t for you. It’s for those who want to make a change.
Besides the fact that I am a fan, there is some solid advice between these pages. I’m going to go into a couple of my favorite or most needed chapters so I won’t get into the nitty gritty here. But what I will tell you is that besides having really great advice, it is very well written. Humorous anecdotes, clear guidelines, and proven results. I love to hear success stories that also show you where they came from and the steps they took.
Most Powerful Chapter
For me personally the most powerful chapter was in Part III: Skills to Acquire – Skill 1: Planning. I like to think of myself personally as a really organized person. But something that she mentioned in this section, about how dreamers can start wandering and lose focus, get into a research or creative idea paralysis. This is something that I’ve observed in my own life personally, I’ll get an idea for a story and research and research so I feel like I sound like I know what I’m talking about. And then you know what happens? I never get the story down on paper? I never finish a book! How frustrating for a writer to not also be a finisher?
This chapter gives you a very clear-cut guideline or plan in order to become a finisher. I have both the ebook and hardcopy so I screenshot it so I can have it in multiple places. I have a feeling that I’m going to mold it to fit my own style or dreams/goals a little bit so I’m sure I’ll end up drawing my own and putting it on my dream board. This is powerful because it’s clear that I have a ton of ideas/plans but focus is not a strong suit of mine. Focus = Finisher.
Chapter I Need Help with the Most
This chapter is about saying No. Learning to say no when you don’t want to do something. Learning to say no quicker, and being decisive in the moment instead of piddling around the subject. Something that we say in retail was something similar to what she said in the book is “only touch something once.” If there’s a stack of sweaters that need to be processed, do the sensoring, stickering, signing, and folding all in one go. Don’t place it in one spot and hope that someone else will do the rest. In this case she really talks about not saying maybe or possibly when you want to say no right off the bat. I NEED to do this, especially at work.
I think it’s important to put in here to not feel bad about saying no when it’s something you really don’t want to do. I put guilt on myself when I know I don’t have time or energy to do something additional to what I’m already committed to. So learning to say no and not feeling guilty about it. Starting a new job soon and these are both lessons that I want to bring with me to this new environment.
About the Author
Rachel Hollis is a #1 New York Times best-selling author of Girl, Wash Your Face, a TV personality, top motivational speaker, top podcast host, CCO of The Hollis Company and mother of four. Rachel was named by Inc. Magazine as one of the “Top 30 Entrepreneurs under 30” and she is deeply passionate about empowering women in business.
With her motivational high energy style, Rachel has a unique ability to empower and embolden a female audience. Motivational, inspirational, and always approachable, Rachel’s tell-it-like-it-is attitude is a refreshing approach that allows her to authentically connect with audiences everywhere. (Source)